Do successful blended families really exist? Growing up, you probably learned about stepfamilies from The Brady Bunch. While most people strive for this idyllic situation, many co-parents find it difficult to achieve at first. However, it’s not impossible. Here’s how you can create a great family unit out of multiple parents.
Remember: New Partners Create More Love
It’s not only the kids that struggle with welcoming new partners into the family. Adults also have a tough time. If your former partner finds someone else, you may begin to feel jealous. Even if you no longer want to be together, it’s still hard to see them with another person.
However, you need to set these feelings aside and think about your children instead. Kids benefit from having multiple adult figures in their lives. Take some time to get to know this new partner. Do they have the best interest of your children at heart? If they do, you can feel good knowing they will provide your kids with pure love.
Rushing Into Relationships Isn’t Wise
No one enters into a new relationship expecting it will fail, but many relationships don’t last. If you want to introduce a new partner to your children, it’s best to take your time. Make sure this person is in it for the long-haul. After all, you don’t want your kids to fall in love with a new partner, only to have them leave.
Some children may even rebel against a new partner. This reaction is normal. Kids often think your partner is trying to replace their other parent. Remember to reassure them that this isn’t the case. Make sure your children still have plenty of time with your co-parent. Bringing someone new into the picture takes time, and you shouldn’t rush or force the situation.
Keep the Line of Communication Open
Successful stepfamilies communicate with each other. Both you and your former partner should have an equal say in raising your children. But it would be best if you also listened to the concerns of any new partners. After all, they will be around your kids just as much as you.
Create a safe place where everyone can discuss family situations together. Always be respectful of other partners, even if they aren’t your favorite person in the world. Adults should be able to talk about the needs of the children in a civil manner. Make one-on-one time for each child, so they don’t feel left out. Doing so will ensure every member of your growing family feels important and loved.
Seek Family Therapy When Needed
Happy blended families don’t happen overnight. It takes time to welcome new people into your family, especially when you have children. Stepfamilies often need guidance along the way. Family therapy is a great way to overcome the challenges many blended families face.
Positive Living Psychotherapy provides professional counseling in a safe, judgment-free zone. We understand the difficulties of bringing families together, and we will provide you with the coping skills you need. Schedule an appointment with us to learn the tricks of successful blended families.