If you suffer from low self-esteem, it can impact every area of your life. Feeling poorly about yourself often holds you back from experiencing a good quality of life and can lead to problems in relationships, employment, and more. The good news is that it is possible to improve your self-esteem by making a few changes. Professional counseling can also make a big difference in helping you change your mindset and help you overcome low self-esteem.
Ready to transform your life and feel better about yourself? Here are four steps to help you get on the path to healthier self-esteem:
#1: Identify the Situations that Trigger Low Self-Esteem
In most cases, people with low self-esteem have specific scenarios or relationships that trigger their problematic thinking. Identifying these situations is an excellent first step to making a change. Common issues that cause self-esteem troubles include:
- Work conflicts or difficulties
- Relationships with relatives or friends
- Life transitions
- Personal crisis
#2: Increase Awareness About Your Thoughts
When you experience triggers, what happens to your thoughts? Becoming aware of your negative thinking about yourself is a crucial step to changing your thought patterns. Each time you have a negative thought or self-talk, make a note of it in a journal or mentally. This includes what you think about things and what you say to yourself. Ask yourself if your thoughts and beliefs are based on facts and logic or false ideas.
#3: Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Thoughts
Once you’ve identified your thought patterns, you can begin to replace them with positive thoughts. While it may feel awkward initially, with time, your positive thinking will overtake the negative, and it will start to feel more natural.
Here are some ways to replace the negative thoughts and self-talk:
- Be encouraging and kind to yourself by using hopeful statements when self-critical thoughts enter your mind.
- Forgive yourself for mistakes; instead of using condemning language, say “I’ve made a mistake, but that doesn’t mean I’m a bad person.”
- Avoid “must” or “should” statements and instead focus on the positive side of a situation.
- Re-label any upsetting or critical thoughts as positive.
#4: Engage in Self-Care Activities
Being kind to yourself can be an incredibly effective tool to increase your self-esteem. Take part in activities you enjoy and spend time with friends and loved ones who make you happy. Engage in healthy behaviors like exercise and healthy eating.
Reach Out to a Qualified Counselor to Improve Self-Esteem
One of the most important steps you can take to boost your self-esteem is getting help from a professional counselor. At Positive Living Psychotherapy, Licensed Associate Marriage and Family Therapist Jessica Bassett specializes in helping clients improve self-esteem. She provides a safe environment for you to process challenging emotions, identify your goals, and learn to replace negative thoughts with positive ones.
If you are ready to schedule an appointment with Jessica to overcome low self-esteem, call 770.552.0333 to book a free phone consultation.